Headlines abound with new information about Harvey Weinstein’s aggressive and exploitative violation of a woman’s right to self-determination, free will and probable criminal activities. The Weinstein story has rightly highlighted the abuse of power to exploit and rape women. We need look no further than Weinstein, Donald Trump and Bill Cosby to see glaring examples of sexism, groping, using and otherwise exploiting women. Although there are too many men who use and abuse women, there are far more nice guys who insist on clear mutual consent prior to any sex.
Welcome to the Pleasuredome Podcast! From the heart of the Puget Sound, home of Starbuck's coffee, Boeing airplanes, Amazon deliveries, Microsoft software, and the world's best Sex Therapy (what do you think we do all year when it is raining outside?), comes the Pleasuredome Podcast, a series of reflections on the state of Sexology and our Sexual Union as a society from America's foremost sexologist, sex therapist, and sex commentator, Dr. Roger Libby.
Hugh Hefner’s Playboy was a major force igniting and defining the sexual revolution of the 1960’s and 1970’s. Hefner was a major civil rights advocate. He was an advocate for LGTBQ rights and women’s right to choice, and he stridently and effectively combatted puritan prudishness and sexual hypocrisy. He opposed the double standard, and he emphasized the importance of privacy and our fundamental right to consensual eroticism.
The publication of this prestigious research review on so-called sex addiction and sex addiction counseling is a major nail in the coffin of sex addiction as a concept and as a behavior. For too long, sex addiction has been blindly accepted as real by the media and by many misguided counselors. I deal with those […]
I am sometimes asked if I am in tune with young and non-monogamous lovers. The answer is yes. I have been a pioneer in developing alternatives to monogamy for those not wanting monogamy for some or all of their lives. I wrote the Foreword to the classic bestseller, Open Marriage. This does not mean that […]
I have always appreciated the healing power of humor in my practice, not just for things that ail us, but for relationships. We have to be able to see the humor and laugh at ourselves, and with our partners, in certain situations. Sex is no exception. One of the […]
by Lawrence Siegel, Clinical Sexologist, MA, AASECT For most of us, a thorough understanding of our sexuality was not one of the things we got from our parents or learned in school. Even the rare few who did get the basics — a “plumbing lesson,” pictures of nasty STDs, or warnings about the perils of pregnancy – were found wanting, as this is not […]
Making a decision to work with a therapist and improve, (or save), an important relationship, calls on all parties to pledge their commitment to the process. First and foremost, it is a commitment by and between oneself and one’s partner — to engage together in the treatment plan. 1 + 1 = one relationship. And the […]
Do we live in a democracy or a theocracy? The 5-4 ruling in favor of the national right to same-sex marriage affirms a democracy where we all have the right to marry and to express our emotional and sexual desires. This landmark ruling is being […]
In Seattle, we are a land of technology. But technology can interfere with intimacy if we’re always on the cell phone or at the computer, or watching television. Or, it can sometimes enhance sex in the case of vibrators — a vibrating page or a vibrating cell phone — if we put it where […]
By Kristen Lilla, AASECT Sex Therapist, Omaha, NE While the concept of polyamory is not something new, the discussion of it seems to be. Those who are exploring polyamory, or identifying as polyamorous, find that they have to “come out of the closet” to their partner, family, and friends. Some are accepted and understood, but many others are ostracized […]