Dr. Libby has raised many eyebrows among the clergy, the media and those who consider themselves “moral crusaders” with his public pronouncement that there is no such thing as sexual “addiction.”
The excessive viewing of porn or the relentless pursuit of indiscriminate or meaningless sex are not “addictions” since they do not involve substance abuse and are external to the body. These behaviors also do not represent a lack of morality or a diet low in moral fiber. Rather, they are examples of obsessive-compulsive behavior. Generally, such behavior compensates for a lack of balance or frequency in regular sexual activity and/or an inability to enjoy regular sex. These issues can be recognized, internalized and corrected through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and healthy “sex-positivity.”
Those who become obsessed with sex or porn often live out their frustrations by spending hours on the Internet. They are having sex with themselves, but not enough–or at all–with others.
Porn can be an escape that is so saturated with fantasy stimuli that sex with a real person cannot compare. This can make real sex difficult and unsatisfying.
Those specializing in sex addiction therapy define addiction as being out of control, but most are able to manage their fantasies and still make
it to work.
Sex addiction and hypersexuality are concepts that have little real meaning. They lack conceptual clarity, and they have not been properly justified by competent sex research. For this reason, these concepts were soundly rejected in the most recent Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Abbreviated as DSM-V, this is the manual therapists use to diagnose mental health problems.
It is normal to want to be exposed to arousing images, and to fantasize about sexual adventures. This does not make one an addict. It makes one an enthusiast.
Let’s face it. Most porn is poorly done. Much of it is exploitative and boring, and some of it is offensive. The answer is not to censor it. The answer is to produce more erotic images with a story line to make it more erotic and thrilling.
What I do is get men and women to use their own imagination, to orchestrate masturbation (or jollification, ‘tis the season to be jolly, especially if Christmas is near!’) and to script their real life sexual lives. It doesn’t make a person an addict to look at porn and masturbate. It often makes them too lazy to conjure up their own fantasies and resume a more genuine, sexually positive relationship!